By Melodee Leven Currier
After having writers’ block for several months, while driving to an appointment I asked my angels to give me a sign about what I should write for my next article.
My thoughts quickly darted to one of my pet peeves – the crazy number of people on television who cry about seemingly nothing. By the time I arrived at my appointment, Roy Orbison’s “Crying” was playing on my car radio and I instantly knew that was the sign I was waiting for.
It seems you can’t turn on the television any more without seeing someone cry. I always wonder – why in the world are they crying?? Usually it’s something that wouldn’t make me cry. And often they aren’t even crying at all — wiping “dry” eyes, pretending they’re crying, trying to elicit sympathy. Three reality shows that seem to encourage pretend crying are Dr. Phil, Paternity Court and The Bachelor.
According to the NY Post, the average woman will cry six times a month, twice as much as men. The last time I remember crying was four years ago when I heard that Dr. Wayne Dyer died. He had been my guru since the mid-70’s when I started reading his books. I even met him twice — once he sat next to me in church. When I told him he was my guru, he replied, “No, you’re your own guru.”
The hardest I ever cried (Oprah’s “ugly cry”) was thirteen years ago when our 18 year old cat, Shibui, died. And the most I ever cried was in high school during my first serious relationship. I’m sure I cried a lot more than six times a month then, more like six times a day.
People cry because of sadness, grief, frustration, nervousness and joy – even hormones play a part. And some payoffs for criers are that people might feel sorry for them and they may get their support or sympathy, it can soothe and relieve stress, it aids sleep and you can feel better afterward. When I’ve cried, it is usually without warning because of grief or frustration.
Your unique perception of a situation will determine if you cry. For example, often people cry at the thought of losing their job, but I see it as a new beginning, often as a blessing and an opportunity for a new adventure. Finding another job can be a stepping stone to more money, meeting new people and learning something new.
Hundreds of songs have been written about crying and I have even been known to cry, or be on the verge of tears, while listening to some of them – Tears in Heaven, Big Girls Don’t Cry, Cry Me A River, Crying in the Rain, Lonely Teardrops, Tears On My Pillow and Don’t Cry Outloud are just a few. If we listen to Dr. Seuss who said, “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” the crying average per month would drop considerably.
As for me, chances are I’m not going to cry as long as no one I know dies. I guess I need to listen to Dr. Seuss and not cry because they died, but smile because I knew them.
© 2019 Melodee Currier
Melodee Currier left corporate America in 2008 where she was an intellectual
property paralegal. Since then she has devoted her time to writing and has
had three eBooks (www.amazon.com/author/melodeecurrier) and numerous articles published on a wide variety of topics. Her articles can be read on her website www.melodeecurrier.com. Mel is an occasional contributor to True Stories Well Told.